Anger Management
Push their buttons hard enough and even the most placid person will get angry. It's a natural response to feeling threatened. When faced with a threatening situation you will either react angrily, or walk away - known as your 'fight or flight response'.
All anger is caused by fear. You may not think this applies to you, especially if your anger is triggered by a situation involving no one else. After all, you're not afraid of yourself, are you?
Illogical as it may seem, at some level beneath the surface we are all afraid of ourselves. Think about it. Fear of failure, fear of looking stupid, fear of being found out, fear of dying... we all fear some aspect of self.
Very often it is this hidden fear of our own inadequacy that leads to our anger. Even when other people DO seem to be the cause, our anger is still likely to come from our fear of self, rather than our fear of them.
This is good news, as you can do something about it, just by changing your mind!
In order to do that, first you need to address the issue underlying your fear. For example, it's no good 'pretending' that you no longer fear being seen as a failure if, deep down you do! This fear will fade as you begin to realise that it's OK to fail occasionally - everyone does in the course of achieving great things - and that those around you do not judge you in such terms (even though you do!).
If you would like help to manage your anger, please e-mail VISION unlimited at:
manageanger@vision-unlimited.co.uk.
All communication is confidential and free of charge.
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